Success In Black And White - The Podcast
44: How We’re Successful As A Couple

44: How We’re Successful As A Couple

August 19, 2019
One of the questions we get ALL THE TIME is "how do you continue to work together, be successful, and not hate each other??" 

Honestly, it takes work.  It's easier to "let things go" that will later bubble up into resentment than to have the hard conversation right away.  It's easier to sit around and watch TV than to spend time together day-in-and-day-out working on your relationship or towards a shared goal.  It's easier to just do parenting your way and expect your partner to jump on-board than to have some of those harder conversations up-front.

But- we've committed to not only having a good life together, but to having an extraordinary life together.  In this episode, we give your our 4 tips to ensure that you are successful as a couple. 

 
Resource Mentioned: 
Download your FREE Goal-Crusher's Guide! This in-depth, 7-page workbook will help you determine your goals and create action steps to achieve them: successinblackandwhite.com/goalcrushers
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White.
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: Facebook Group

43: Don’t Be Scared… Speak Up For Yourself

43: Don’t Be Scared… Speak Up For Yourself

August 13, 2019
Ever been passed up for a promotion or a raise at work? Ever been passed up for a project? Ever felt like you weren't getting what you needed from your partner in your relationship? Ever just feel like you AREN'T BEING HEARD? In this episode, we are discussing strategies you can use when advocating for yourself in your various relationships- romantic relationships, familial relationships, and work relationships.  
 
Resources mentioned:
 
Jocko Willink podcast: http://jockopodcast.com/
 
Level Up Your Confidence Game: Episode 41 - Level Up Your Confidence Game
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White.
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: Facebook Group

42: It’s Your Job To Do The Dishes

42: It’s Your Job To Do The Dishes

August 6, 2019
"Can he just help me with the dishes for once?"
 
"Can she stop slamming cupboards in there...what is wrong with her??! "
 
In this episode, you're getting the insiders view into our relationship roles; the struggles we've had defining them; and how we finally were able to bring peace to our relationship by supporting each other in the most mundane things there are in life:  household chores.  
 
Episodes mentioned: "Communication Episodes"
 
Success in Black and White episode 34: How to Give Productive Feedback
 
Success in Black and White episode 35: How to Take Feedback Like a Champ
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White.

 

Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

 

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: Facebook Group

41: Level Up Your Confidence Game

41: Level Up Your Confidence Game

July 30, 2019

Some people just seem to have it all together, don't they? They kill it in their business, their marriage is all romance and fun, their kids are well-behaved and participate in EVERYTHING, they find time to exercise and grab coffee with their friends, and they do it all with supreme self-confidence.  Meanwhile, the rest of us mortals can take a hit to our confidence levels when we don't finish a project at work, our kids scream in the car the entire ride home from school, and we just haven't exercised in 2 (ahem, 3) weeks. 

Because self-confidence is tied to success, we took this episode to provide some tangible ways for you to build your confidence.  We also explore the thin line between self-confidence and ego, and the effects of ego on success. 

Episodes mentioned: 
Oprah's Super Soul Conversations: Oprah on the False Power of Ego
 
 
 
Success in Black and White: Surviving Transitions: Surviving Transitions
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White

 

Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

 

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: Facebook Group

40: She Touched Me… But It Wasn’t My Fault

40: She Touched Me… But It Wasn’t My Fault

July 23, 2019
You know that feeling when someone touches your partner RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU??
 
Well, I do (April speaking here). 
 
So on our special anniversary edition of the podcast (happy July 23rd anniversary to us!), Darryl and I talk about a couple of different scenarios: one happened to our friends and one happened when a bold, brazen lady put her hands on Darryl.  
 
Trust me, you really don't want to miss this episode.  
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  Closed Captioning (CC) available for hearing impaired. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel

 

Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

 

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: Facebook Group

39: Embrace The Moment

39: Embrace The Moment

July 16, 2019
The other night I (April) was making dinner when Darryl called over to me to come watch the kids dance to a Beyonce song.  "Hurry, this is so cute," he said.  "Just a minute!" I yelled, trying to hurry the stir-fry on the stove through the last minute until it was done, not wanting it to burn.  I set down my spatula and peeked out to the living room where of course, I had missed the cute dancing moment.  As I held Von that night, I felt guilt and remorse for having missed a precious moment that I knew I'd never get back. 
 
This week, we talk about learning how to embrace the moment.  From parent guilt to letting other people hold us back from our business, to those times we've let each other drag us back into our past; we discuss times we've lived well in the moment and the times we've (regrettably) let moments pass us by.   
 
Episodes mentioned: 
 
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public

 

Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

 

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

38: Surviving Transitions

38: Surviving Transitions

July 9, 2019

Transitions happen in life. No matter what the transition (football, finding out we were having a baby, starting our business), we've used these 3 life-transition hacks to survive major changes.

1. Acknowledge the transition
2. Give yourself time to process the transition
3. Be patient

Past Episodes Referenced:

Episode 5: Making Tough Decision: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/making-tough-decisions/

Episode 8: This One's For The Haters: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/this-ones-for-the-haters/

 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public

 

Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

 

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

37: Are You In Tune With Your Intuition

37: Are You In Tune With Your Intuition

July 2, 2019
Intuition is a powerful thing, isn't it?   In this episode, I (April) talk about a time that I ignored my intuition; resulting in scary consequences.  We discuss our 4 tips to increase self-awareness and hone your intuition:

1. Listen to what others have to say about you
2. Know your triggers
3. Start listening to your intuition
4. Get in tune with how your actions indicate your feelings 

 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
 
NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/
36: How To Rebound From A Mistake

36: How To Rebound From A Mistake

June 25, 2019
Mistakes.  They happen to all of us.  In this episode, we get REAL about a mistake we both made and how we had to overcome it.  You'll get tips on how to overcome mistakes so that you aren't left wallowing in self-pity or finding yourself making the same mistake over and over again.  
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
 
NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/
 
Resources mentioned in this podcast:  
Walter Bond: motivational speaker & business coach: https://walterbond.com/
Jocko Willink: former Navy Seal, motivational speaker, leadership consultant: http://jockopodcast.com/
35: How To Take Feedback Like A Champ

35: How To Take Feedback Like A Champ

June 18, 2019
Do you get defensive when you get feedback?  So do I (April speaking here).  Most people do, so in this episode, we talk about a situation that happened to us the day before we recorded (a "crucial discussion" that occurred between the two of us) and how we were able to resolve our conflict in LESS THAN 1 HOUR- with action plans and everything.   Here are the tips you'll hear about so you can take feedback like a champ!
 
1. Listen to Understand
2. Don't get Defensive
3. Ask Questions for Clarity
4. Make Your Action Plans to Resolve the Situation
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
 
NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/