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July 16, 2019
The other night I (April) was making dinner when Darryl called over to me to come watch the kids dance to a Beyonce song. "Hurry, this is so cute," he said. "Just a minute!" I yelled, trying to hurry the stir-fry on the stove through the last minute until it was done, not wanting it to burn. I set down my spatula and peeked out to the living room where of course, I had missed the cute dancing moment. As I held Von that night, I felt guilt and remorse for having missed a precious moment that I knew I'd never get back.
This week, we talk about learning how to embrace the moment. From parent guilt to letting other people hold us back from our business, to those times we've let each other drag us back into our past; we discuss times we've lived well in the moment and the times we've (regrettably) let moments pass us by.
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June 25, 2019
Mistakes. They happen to all of us. In this episode, we get REAL about a mistake we both made and how we had to overcome it. You'll get tips on how to overcome mistakes so that you aren't left wallowing in self-pity or finding yourself making the same mistake over and over again.
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June 18, 2019
Do you get defensive when you get feedback? So do I (April speaking here). Most people do, so in this episode, we talk about a situation that happened to us the day before we recorded (a "crucial discussion" that occurred between the two of us) and how we were able to resolve our conflict in LESS THAN 1 HOUR- with action plans and everything. Here are the tips you'll hear about so you can take feedback like a champ!
1. Listen to Understand
2. Don't get Defensive
3. Ask Questions for Clarity
4. Make Your Action Plans to Resolve the Situation
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
June 11, 2019
Have you ever had to sit down and have "the talk" with someone? You know... that talk about how they need to improve their performance in order to get better in their _____________ (job, relationship, friendship... you name it).
It's not easy to have "the talk" with someone. In this week's episode, we break down our tips for giving feedback that is productive... meaning the person you're giving feedback to will be more likely to CHANGE!
Here are a few of our tips:
1. Never give feedback to an individual in front of a crowd.
2. Be specific.
3. Incorporate both positive and negative in your feedback.
4. Prioritize and specify the action steps that person can take to improve.
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
June 4, 2019
This week, we spill our secrets to self-growth and development!
In our discussion about the ways we've been successful in teaching ourselves ALL. THE. THINGS., we go over:
1. how we've found our mentors,
2. how we learned how to produce this podcast,
3. and, how we've learned how to just "figure it out" (and done it successfully) even if we don't have the skills when we first start something!
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
May 28, 2019
We had a really tough conversation a few weeks ago, and got into a fight a few weeks before that. For a couple that doesn't get into "spats" often, we still have our fair share of them. In this episode, we talk about how we learned (over time) to communicate effectively with each other.
We share our tips to ensure that difficult conversations we have are actually productive, such as:
1. Knowing when to be quiet
2. Practicing active listening (it's not what you think it is)
3. Being spot-on with the timing of our discussions
4. Understanding the importance of "word play"
May 21, 2019
Have an unmotivated mindset? A lack of confidence? A limiting belief you struggle with? This week, we talk about the times we’ve struggled with negative mindsets and how we overcame them. You’ll get tips on how to reprogram your mind when it matters most.
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May 13, 2019
What are the biggest lies you’ve believed in the past or even catch yourself believing now?
We break down some of the biggest lies that men and women believe. Catch our candid conversations in this episode as we discuss working moms, the need to be a “tough” man, standards of beauty, how women try to control relationships, and more.
