Success In Black And White - The Podcast
39: Embrace The Moment

39: Embrace The Moment

July 16, 2019
The other night I (April) was making dinner when Darryl called over to me to come watch the kids dance to a Beyonce song.  "Hurry, this is so cute," he said.  "Just a minute!" I yelled, trying to hurry the stir-fry on the stove through the last minute until it was done, not wanting it to burn.  I set down my spatula and peeked out to the living room where of course, I had missed the cute dancing moment.  As I held Von that night, I felt guilt and remorse for having missed a precious moment that I knew I'd never get back. 
 
This week, we talk about learning how to embrace the moment.  From parent guilt to letting other people hold us back from our business, to those times we've let each other drag us back into our past; we discuss times we've lived well in the moment and the times we've (regrettably) let moments pass us by.   
 
Episodes mentioned: 
 
 
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Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

 

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

38: Surviving Transitions

38: Surviving Transitions

July 9, 2019

Transitions happen in life. No matter what the transition (football, finding out we were having a baby, starting our business), we've used these 3 life-transition hacks to survive major changes.

1. Acknowledge the transition
2. Give yourself time to process the transition
3. Be patient

Past Episodes Referenced:

Episode 5: Making Tough Decision: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/making-tough-decisions/

Episode 8: This One's For The Haters: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/this-ones-for-the-haters/

 
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Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

 

NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

37: Are You In Tune With Your Intuition

37: Are You In Tune With Your Intuition

July 2, 2019
Intuition is a powerful thing, isn't it?   In this episode, I (April) talk about a time that I ignored my intuition; resulting in scary consequences.  We discuss our 4 tips to increase self-awareness and hone your intuition:

1. Listen to what others have to say about you
2. Know your triggers
3. Start listening to your intuition
4. Get in tune with how your actions indicate your feelings 

 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
 
NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/
36: How To Rebound From A Mistake

36: How To Rebound From A Mistake

June 25, 2019
Mistakes.  They happen to all of us.  In this episode, we get REAL about a mistake we both made and how we had to overcome it.  You'll get tips on how to overcome mistakes so that you aren't left wallowing in self-pity or finding yourself making the same mistake over and over again.  
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
 
NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/
 
Resources mentioned in this podcast:  
Walter Bond: motivational speaker & business coach: https://walterbond.com/
Jocko Willink: former Navy Seal, motivational speaker, leadership consultant: http://jockopodcast.com/
35: How To Take Feedback Like A Champ

35: How To Take Feedback Like A Champ

June 18, 2019
Do you get defensive when you get feedback?  So do I (April speaking here).  Most people do, so in this episode, we talk about a situation that happened to us the day before we recorded (a "crucial discussion" that occurred between the two of us) and how we were able to resolve our conflict in LESS THAN 1 HOUR- with action plans and everything.   Here are the tips you'll hear about so you can take feedback like a champ!
 
1. Listen to Understand
2. Don't get Defensive
3. Ask Questions for Clarity
4. Make Your Action Plans to Resolve the Situation
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.
 
NEW:  We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families!  Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/
34: How To Give Productive Feedback

34: How To Give Productive Feedback

June 11, 2019
Have you ever had to sit down and have "the talk" with someone?  You know... that talk about how they need to improve their performance in order to get better in their _____________ (job, relationship, friendship... you name it). 
 
It's not easy to have "the talk" with someone.  In this week's episode, we break down our tips for giving feedback that is productive... meaning the person you're giving feedback to will be more likely to CHANGE!
 
Here are a few of our tips:
1. Never give feedback to an individual in front of a crowd.
2. Be specific.
3. Incorporate both positive and negative in your feedback. 
4. Prioritize and specify the action steps that person can take to improve.
 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.  
33: Don’t Be Stupid: Tips for Self-Growth

33: Don’t Be Stupid: Tips for Self-Growth

June 4, 2019
This week, we spill our secrets to self-growth and development! 

In our discussion about the ways we've been successful in teaching ourselves ALL. THE. THINGS., we go over:

1. how we've found our mentors,
2. how we learned how to produce this podcast,
3. and, how we've learned how to just "figure it out" (and done it successfully) even if we don't have the skills when we first start something!

 
If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you!  You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public
 
Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives.  Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.  
32: Know When to Be Quiet

32: Know When to Be Quiet

May 28, 2019
We had a really tough conversation a few weeks ago, and got into a fight a few weeks before that.  For a couple that doesn't get into "spats" often, we still have our fair share of them.  In this episode, we talk about how we learned (over time) to communicate effectively with each other. 
 
We share our tips to ensure that difficult conversations we have are actually productive, such as: 
 
1. Knowing when to be quiet
2. Practicing active listening (it's not what you think it is)
3. Being spot-on with the timing of our discussions
4. Understanding the importance of "word play"
31: Reprogramming Your Mindset

31: Reprogramming Your Mindset

May 21, 2019

Have an unmotivated mindset?  A lack of confidence?  A limiting belief you struggle with?  This week, we talk about the times we’ve struggled with negative mindsets and how we overcame them.  You’ll get tips on how to reprogram your mind when it matters most. 

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Stop Lying to Yourself

Stop Lying to Yourself

May 13, 2019

What are the biggest lies you’ve believed in the past or even catch yourself believing now?

We break down some of the biggest lies that men and women believe.  Catch our candid conversations in this episode as we discuss working moms, the need to be a “tough” man, standards of beauty, how women try to control relationships, and more.