![46: Let Me Validate Ya]()
September 2, 2019
Validation is a necessary part of life. We use validation every time we look up Yelp's "Top 10 Restaurants" while we're traveling. We require validation to ensure that we are doing a good job at work. However, validation can go too far when we start to rely on it in order to feel like we have worth. The things that other people think of us shouldn't dictate how we feel about ourselves or our behaviors, but they often do.
In this episode, we discuss the concept of validation, the harm it can have, and our tips for getting over needing validation from others in order to feel worthwhile.
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![45: The Biggest Fears Holding You Back]()
August 26, 2019
In this episode, we tackle a heavy topic: the fears that hold us back from success. We talk about:
1. The Fear of Inadequacy
2. The Fear of Failure
3. The Fear of Losing Control
4. The Fear of Judgment
We talk through the ways to overcome these common fears; trust me, you don't want to miss it!
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![43: Don’t Be Scared… Speak Up For Yourself]()
August 13, 2019
Ever been passed up for a promotion or a raise at work? Ever been passed up for a project? Ever felt like you weren't getting what you needed from your partner in your relationship? Ever just feel like you AREN'T BEING HEARD? In this episode, we are discussing strategies you can use when advocating for yourself in your various relationships- romantic relationships, familial relationships, and work relationships.
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![42: It’s Your Job To Do The Dishes]()
August 6, 2019
"Can he just help me with the dishes for once?"
"Can she stop slamming cupboards in there...what is wrong with her??! "
In this episode, you're getting the insiders view into our relationship roles; the struggles we've had defining them; and how we finally were able to bring peace to our relationship by supporting each other in the most mundane things there are in life: household chores.
Episodes mentioned: "Communication Episodes"
Success in Black and White episode 34: How to Give Productive Feedback
Success in Black and White episode 35: How to Take Feedback Like a Champ
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![41: Level Up Your Confidence Game]()
July 30, 2019
Some people just seem to have it all together, don't they? They kill it in their business, their marriage is all romance and fun, their kids are well-behaved and participate in EVERYTHING, they find time to exercise and grab coffee with their friends, and they do it all with supreme self-confidence. Meanwhile, the rest of us mortals can take a hit to our confidence levels when we don't finish a project at work, our kids scream in the car the entire ride home from school, and we just haven't exercised in 2 (ahem, 3) weeks.
Because self-confidence is tied to success, we took this episode to provide some tangible ways for you to build your confidence. We also explore the thin line between self-confidence and ego, and the effects of ego on success.
Episodes mentioned:
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![40: She Touched Me… But It Wasn’t My Fault]()
July 23, 2019
You know that feeling when someone touches your partner RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU??
Well, I do (April speaking here).
So on our special anniversary edition of the podcast (happy July 23rd anniversary to us!), Darryl and I talk about a couple of different scenarios: one happened to our friends and one happened when a bold, brazen lady put her hands on Darryl.
Trust me, you really don't want to miss this episode.
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![39: Embrace The Moment]()
July 16, 2019
The other night I (April) was making dinner when Darryl called over to me to come watch the kids dance to a Beyonce song. "Hurry, this is so cute," he said. "Just a minute!" I yelled, trying to hurry the stir-fry on the stove through the last minute until it was done, not wanting it to burn. I set down my spatula and peeked out to the living room where of course, I had missed the cute dancing moment. As I held Von that night, I felt guilt and remorse for having missed a precious moment that I knew I'd never get back.
This week, we talk about learning how to embrace the moment. From parent guilt to letting other people hold us back from our business, to those times we've let each other drag us back into our past; we discuss times we've lived well in the moment and the times we've (regrettably) let moments pass us by.
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