Success In Black And White ® - The Podcast

120: Forward Thinking for Organizational Change (w/ Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold & Dr. Lisa Ingarfield)

Mon, 03 May 2021 01:14:54 -0300

Lately, "DEI" can feel like a performative term that varies in connotation and political implication depending on the situation and the state of the organization. This week, with special guests Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold and Dr. Lisa Ingarfield, we move beyond thinking solely in terms of DEI to thinking of equitable strategies that will mobilize organizational change. As a returning guest to the Success in Black and White Podcast, Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold (catch her first episode and full bio here), brings us her wisdom once again. Serving as the Assistant Provost for Diversity & Inclusion at Towson University, Dr. SPG is passionate about speaking truth while serving those around her, about mentoring others, and about sport and triathlon. Dr. SPG and her counterpart, Dr. Lisa Ingarfield, host the [un]phased podcast, a podcast designed to help you grapple with the reality of racism, sexism, ableism, and many other hard-to-discuss issues affecting triathlon, endurance sport, and our lives. Dr. Lisa Ingarfield received her Ph.D. in Intercultural Communication from the University of Denver. Her research focuses on how inclusion and exclusion manifests in communication. Prior to becoming a research, evaluation, and DEI consultant, she worked for 15 years in the public sector (education and state government). Lisa is a systems thinker and is able to advise organizations looking to make meaningful change and ensure its infrastructure centers inclusion. She is originally from London, U.K. and currently resides in Colorado. She races triathlon, owns Tri to Defi Coaching and Consulting, and is a certified RRCA and USAT coach. She also co-founded the Outspoken: Women in Triathlon Summit with Dr. Sara Gross. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week!

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119: A Message From The Lovetts

Sun, 25 Apr 2021 23:25:27 -0300

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118: Inclusive Hiring Practices: What Is 'The Right Fit'? (w/ DaShawn Dilworth)

Mon, 19 Apr 2021 00:00:09 -0300

"I went through multiple stages of a job search process and was told that I 'did very well,' so waited for an offer. After my peers had long received job offers, I had to reach back out to the institution I wanted to work at, then finally got an email that stated: 'your references are great, your interview was great, and you have skill sets we could use, but we decided to go a different direction with someone who 'fits' better with our office.' I had the natural tendency to feel hurt at the rejection, but a different feeling also came up: one of confusion. I emailed back 'what didn't go well, can you share what I could have done better?' A few emails later, the employer told me they couldn't legally give me feedback, but that I did very well and didn't have much else to tell me. So, if I did so well and my skills were useful, why didn't I get the job?" After this experience, DaShawn Dilworth really honed in on the term "fit" as part of the hiring process and job experience overall. In his research (see his article Elephants in the Room: Examining and Understanding the Black Assembly Line, p. 20), he found that this term is meant to hide in plain site the various prejudice and biases found in the workplace. His research dives into equity and justice throughout the hiring process and at work. This episode was incredible; not only does he talk through his research findings but also gives very real tips to move away from thinking about the term "fit" during hiring processes. About DaShawn: Writer. Researcher. SA Pro. Hustler. All these identities and more define DaShawn. As a recent graduate of the Higher Education program at Florida State University, DaShawn currently conducts qualitative research as part of his day job. In his own time, he enjoys writing and creating innovative ways to tell stories we often don't hear. DaShawn's research joys range from studying higher education environment's impact on Black professionals to understanding the intersection of hip hop and academia. Follow DaShawn (and his new podcast: Mask Off) here: IG: @dasani_dill Twitter: @DaShawnDilworth Facebook: DaShawn Dilworth Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

117: Taking Risks For Success (w/ Dorsey Spencer Jr.)

Sun, 11 Apr 2021 23:22:21 -0300

From the projects in Harlem to film school; from film school dropout to Doctor; from the U.S. to Africa and back again...Dr. Dorsey Spencer (pictured above with son, Chase) has experienced it all. His newest journey includes acting as Dean of Students for Colgate University and children's book author for his own publishing company, See Us Fly, LLC. In this episode, he drops so much wisdom about the necessity of taking risks, how important finding a diverse array of mentors is, and how you CAN be both an entrepreneur while still working a full-time job. Dr. Dorsey Spencer Jr. is a Student Affairs professional, educator, scholar, author, and entrepreneur. He resides with his wife and children in New York and is currently the Dean of Students at Colgate University. He oversees a robust portfolio and has direct responsibility for several key functional areas related to student engagement. He has an array of experiences within higher education in the United States and abroad. Dr. Spencer has a bachelor’s degree in Sport and Recreation Management from Temple University, a master’s degree in Higher Education Administration from the University of Massachusetts Amherst, and a doctorate in Higher Education from Florida State University. Additionally, Dr. Spencer is the author of Worms Are A Yummy Snack, a children's picture book, and the owner of See Us Fly LLC, an independent publishing company. For more information or to purchase books, visit seeusfly.com Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

116: Learning To Reshape Your World View (w/ Kellie & Alicia)

Mon, 29 Mar 2021 00:11:56 -0300

Dr. Kellie Gerbers and Dr. Alicia Cunningham-Bryant deliver a powerful message in today's episode. The ability to absorb and learn from history, to approach individuals and experiences different from yours with empathy, and to be vulnerable in the face of things unknown to you are the best ways to be advocates for change. These amazing women share their own journeys of learning, growth, and justice. They teach a college course together that explores graffiti as a form of expression, healing, and understanding (yes, you read that right...graffiti), and how this topic opens up conversations related to bias and misinformation. We also talk about the outdoors as a recreational and social justice space. Honestly, the conversation went in multiple directions and is worth every second to listen to! Dr. Kellie Gerbers is an Assistant Professor of Outdoor Education and Leadership at Westminster College in Salt Lake City, Utah. Prior to that role, she managed outdoor programs at The University of Georgia and Florida State University. Personally and professionally, Kellie is working on identifying the spheres of influence where she can create positive change as it pertains to building more inclusive communities. When she's not teaching, she's learning to do stuff and i seven considering writing a book called "Learning to Do Stuff in Your Thirties." She also really loves Arby's (give the girl a meat suit already). Dr. Alicia Cunningham-Bryant holds the Kim T. Adamson Chair in the Honors College at Westminster College in Salt Lake City. She has extensive experience as an archivist and curator at museums in Philadelphia and New Haven, Connecticut where she curated exhibits on Afhghan war rugs, Black comic book heroes, and Egyptomania. She has also done archeological field work in Egypt, Jordan, and Mallorca. Her research interests include public history, museum curation, digital humanities, East Africa, and decolonizing Egyptology and art history, among other topics, Alicia earned a BA at University of California, San Diego (in both history and archeology), and her PhD in Near Eastern language and civilizations at Yale University. She was a US State Department Education and Cultural Affairs fellow at Cairo Museum and Nubia Museum and has worked at museums around the world gathering together collections that have been separated through time. She also does a lot of other things to serve her community and we honestly don't understand how she manages all the things while staying engaged and in-the-moment. Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

115: Turning The Tables

Sun, 21 Mar 2021 23:00:00 -0300

A special episode this week! We turn the tables and let you listen in to a featured interview we did for the Journey to Joy podcast. We discuss it all, from how we met to what it's like working together, to how being an interracial family impacts us and our children. You don't want to miss this special feature! You can listen to all the amazing episodes from the Journey to Joy podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or at www.journeytojoypodcast.com Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

114: Showing Up Matters

Mon, 15 Mar 2021 00:20:43 -0300

Darryl's a solo on the podcast today to give you brief motivation on why showing up matters. Don't miss this short episode for a quick pick-me-up!

113: A Healthy Conversation About Overcoming Fears (with Dr. Asha)

Sun, 07 Mar 2021 23:02:53 -0400

Fear, imposter syndrome, and struggles... Dr. Asha talks to us about overcoming it all in today's episode! She shares her own struggles with fear, from being stuck in Peru at the beginning of the pandemic to overcoming her fear of public speaking. We discuss the integration of faith into your weekly routine to boost your healthy habits, and learning how to succeed even when the world feels like it's falling apart. Whether you've been struggling in this season or taking hold of every opportunity, you don't want to miss Dr. Asha's wisdom in this episode! Dr. Asha Fields Brewer is a “Creator of Healthy Conversations.” As a national speaker, published author, and radio host, she frequently contributes her insight to magazines, newspapers, and other media outlets. She earned a B.S. in Exercise Science from Florida State University and a Doctor of Chiropractic degree from Parker University. She founded Temple Fit Co. wellness agency, and she empowers audiences alongside their 25+ wellness faculty. In everything she does, Dr. Asha is dedicated to her life purpose: teach the busy and overwhelmed how to live life abundantly. For more information and booking, visit www.doctorasha.com. Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

112: Deconstructing Racial Microaggression (w/ Kiama Anthony Bishop)

Sun, 28 Feb 2021 23:00:00 -0400

We spent an hour with Kiama unpacking microaggressions in the workplace, including those that now happen in a virtual space. Kiama drops so much wisdom about the WHAT, and also takes the time and space to impart knowledge as to the WHAT NOW? She gives excellent takeaways about what you can do if you are part of a traditionally minoritized group that experiences microaggressions, and also how to be a good ally if you have the privilege of not experiencing them. This episode was straight FIRE (where are my emojis??!). You don't want to miss it. Kiama Anthony Bishop is the Assistant University Registrar for Policy and Compliance at the University of Virginia. Kiama is committed to inclusive and equitable policies and practices and has a passion for dismantling systemic racism in higher education. Kiama is a first-generation college student with a B.A. in Sociology and a Master of Public Administration. She is completing doctoral studies in the Doctor of Education in Leadership program at Virginia Commonwealth University. Kiama resides with her husband, Justin, in Central Virginia. Follow Kiama: https://www.instagram.com/mizzkey2u/ Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

111: The Customer Is Not Always Right (with Danny Snow)

Sun, 21 Feb 2021 22:55:41 -0400

Do you run a large corporation? How about a small entrepreneurial start-up? No matter where you fall on the line from large org to small, this episode is all about BUSINESS; about creating customer loyalty no matter what you do. Danny brings us his perspective from his time working with Mickey Mouse and company. You'll get sage advice on bringing people back to your business time and again, as well as hear more about Danny and his family (his wife, pictured above, and two adorable kiddos). Danny Snow was born into a true Disney family. He and every member of his immediate family worked for Walt Disney World at some point in their careers, learning what it takes to create a loyalty-driven customer experience. Danny now works for Snow & Associates, Inc. where he helped grow a family business from a startup into one of the top customer service speaking/training companies in the world.
Danny is an international speaker, helping organizations capitalize on their customer service and focus on leadership and employee development. Follow Danny at: IG: @dannysnowspeaks FB: @danny.snow.31 LinkedIn: @dannysnow Website: https://snowassociates.com/ Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

110: Finding Your Purpose (with Seneca Wilson)

Sun, 14 Feb 2021 23:00:00 -0400

From growing up in the projects to graduating from college; from quitting on his Masters degree to finishing it years later; Seneca talks about his life journey, the mentors that pushed him (and lent him their clothes for an interview), and how he found his purpose in life through poetry, authorship, and working with students. Seneca drops knowledge about how to find your purpose, what the journey to being a book author looks like, and how he manages to do all the things. Seneca is a motivational speaker, author, poet, and educator. He's on a mission to empower people using sports, hip-hop, inspiration, and poetry. Seneca's newest book, Turn on Your Light, is an inspirational and thought-provoking book designed to help you find your purpose in life. Learn more and follow Seneca: Website: https://www.senecawilson.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/senecawilson31/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/seneca31 Twitter: https://twitter.com/senecawilson31 Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

109: Celebrating Black History Month

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 23:56:24 -0400

What do you know about Black History Month? Were you educated about it school? Did you celebrate it growing up? We ask and answer these questions and more in this episode. Follow us on your favorite podcast app or Subscribe to our weekly newsletter! You'll get our latest podcast episode and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

108: Authentic Leadership (with Dr. Calvin Williams)

Sun, 31 Jan 2021 23:14:46 -0400

Dr. Calvin Williams talks to us about his career journey: from being a community college fail-out to doing tours in the military to becoming a doctor, he embodies the term "perseverance." We didn't want the conversation to stop! He discusses authentic leadership, how to lead well remotely, navigating generational differences in the workplace, and how writing blog posts has been healing for racial trauma. Dr. Williams is a blogger, consultant, inspirational speaker, and Authentic Leadership advocate with a background in university Career Services. Dr. Williams has expertise in Authentic Leadership, staff development, event planning, policy development and facilitation. He has a Ph.D. in Industrial/Organizational Psychology, Master of Arts in Counseling/Human Relations, and a Bachelor of Science in Psychology.

Dr. William's Social/Media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lcalvinwilliams/ @l_calvinwilliams (Instagram)

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107: Discussion With a Media Mogul

Mon, 25 Jan 2021 00:55:12 -0400

Lesroy has worked in television for 21 years, from college sports, to entertainment TV, to marketing and corporate, he's produced and edited videos of the MLB, NASCAR & NBA. He owns the media companies LouardMedia and LouardLife, LLC. Lesroy and his partner, Megan, are also founders of the knit headwear clothing company, Expressive Heart Knits, that features fun headwear designs that also have inspiration and positive messaging. Lesroy sits down with us to talk all things media and production (including his favorite celebrities to work with!), tips to become a top-notch photographer using your phone, entrepreneurship, and living as an interracial family. Connect with Lesroy via his websites: www.LouardMedia.com https://www.etsy.com/shop/ExpressiveHearts?ref=search_shop_redirect Or via Instagram: @LesroyLouard @LouardMedia_Photography @ExpressiveHearts_Knits Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

106: Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Mon, 18 Jan 2021 16:17:17 -0400

Dr. Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. is the most revered civil rights activist in the United States. On this day of observance of his birthday, we discuss his lasting impact and some of the things you probably don't know about him.

https://www.history.com/news/10-things-you-may-not-know-about-martin-luther-king-jr Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

105: Guilty Pleasures

Sun, 29 Nov 2020 22:45:34 -0400

What's your guilty pleasure? This week we spill all of our guilty pleasures, from food and beverage, to Netflix, to social media. Don't miss this fun episode!

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104: Reclaiming Yourself After 2020

Sun, 22 Nov 2020 23:31:14 -0400

How are you going to reclaim 2020? Today we discuss strategies to reclamation 2020 physically, mentally, financially, and from the lens of personal growth.

103: I Quit: A Couple's Journey To Entrepreneurship (w/ Matteo & Julie Ferrer)

Mon, 16 Nov 2020 00:49:11 -0400

Matteo and Julie Ferrer are the ultimate power couple... no, really. Matteo's groundbreaking men's dress shirt design led him to say goodbye to corporate and political life and start his own men's dress shirt company, VERSATTIRE (versatile + attire). Matteo and Julie, mere months prior to their wedding, were informed by the Discovery Channel that VERSATTIRE would be featured as one of six businesses competing for seed funding on the series premier of Discovery Channel's I Quit. The couple jumped at the chance and even let Discovery Channel film crews into their wedding! Julie is also a self-made entrepreneur in the fashion industry. With hundreds of thousands of followers on social media and fashion designs that have been featured in Harper's Bazaar, Town and Country, and Elle magazine, Julie decided in early 2020 that it was time to open her own business. LOVE BOMSHEL is a lounge wear company with beautiful and comfortable designs. However, Julie saw a need almost immediately at the beginning of 2020 and pivoted her business to design stylish face masks. For every sale of a face mask, she donated a face mask to local and national hospitals in need. Since March 2020, LOVE BOMSHEL has donated over 3,000 masks to the healthcare community. Matteo and Julie come on the show to discuss how they met, their entrepreneurial journeys, how they work together effectively, how they adapt to ensure their businesses are successful in all circumstances, and more! You don't want to miss this episode with this fun couple! Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

102: Deconstructing Race In Higher Education (with Dr. Beatty)

Sun, 01 Nov 2020 23:26:28 -0400

We sit down with superstar faculty, Dr. Cameron Beatty to discuss deconstructing race in higher education. He spills the tea on his podcast, ScholarTea, talks about his recent article: Love Letters to Blackness and those who say they love us, and everything else race in Higher Ed! Grab your tea and sit down for this amazing interview. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

101: The Electoral College: Should It Stay or Should It Go

Mon, 26 Oct 2020 01:57:01 -0300

The Electoral College is as old as the Constitution (no, really). And may be just as complicated to navigate. Tonight we talk about why it was initially established, how it affects the vote today, and if people think it should stay or should go.

Resources:
Great visual representation of the electoral vote
How the US electoral vote system works
NPR Throughline: The Electoral College

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100: Tips For Sustaining Success

Sun, 18 Oct 2020 23:33:10 -0300

Its the 100th episode! Look, y'all, businesses are HARD. We talk about what it took for us to succeed, give some hints as to what's next for us, and give our 4 tips to sustaining your business even when it's hard.

Listen now!

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99: Balancing Comedy, Politics, and Life (with Comedian E.L. Smith)

Sun, 11 Oct 2020 21:52:33 -0300

We laughed it up this week with internationally-renowned stand-up comic EL Smith! His comedy was reprieve from some of the heaviness happening in the world. EL, who's comedy you can listen to on XM Satellite Radio or watch on Hulu and Amazon Prime, talks about his journey to comedian; picking up and moving across the country to California to follow his dreams; and throws in jokes throughout the interview!

Trust us, you don't want to miss this interview.

Extended Unedited Version Available YouTube

Find EL at:
https://www.elsmithcomedy.com/

https://www.facebook.com/elsmithcomedy

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98: A Flash History Of Your Right To Vote

Sun, 04 Oct 2020 23:25:20 -0300

Voting is the highest form of democracy most Americans will be able to actively contribute to in their lifetimes. Yet, so many choose not to vote. We discuss the history behind your right to vote in America, forms of voter suppression, and why it's still important today. Don't miss this episode and if you haven't registered for the 2020 General Election yet, it's not too late!

TODAY, October 5th is the deadline! Now go practice our hard-earned rights!

Resources:

https://www.history.com/news/voting-elections-ballots-electronic

https://www.carnegie.org/topics/topic-articles/voting-rights/voting-rights-timeline/

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97: Leading Diversity Initiatives With Grace (with James Davis)

Mon, 28 Sep 2020 00:32:24 -0300

Leading diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) initiatives can be tough to do, especially during a time of social unrest. But James "Big Game" Davis, or J.D. as we know him, not only does this on a daily basis, but leads DEI initiatives for 70,000 employees! This interview was both informative and inspiring. J.D. talks to us about how his family motto "It's not about us, it's about what God wants to do through us" informs his work ethic; the strategies organizations can use to employ DEI tactics; and how you can begin doing your own DEI work for yourself.

Primary Takeaways:

Be the person to step out of your comfort zone and intentionally engage with people who are not like you. When you're uncomfortable, that is when you start to grow.
You don't have to know exactly what to say to someone (aka don't always worry about saying the "right" or "wrong" thing), you just have to be sincere.
Lean in to the perspectives that are different than yours (even on social media). If you create the space where people can be themselves around you, they feel like they can open up. If they feel like they can open up, they'll be more willing to listen and learn.
If you are leading any kind of team, you have to invest the time to build relationships with each individual on your team so they will develop trust in you and be open to these types of conversations.

96: A Convo About (Mixed) Race with Dr. Buggs (Part 2 of 2)

Sun, 20 Sep 2020 23:31:01 -0300

In part 2 of our conversation with Dr. Buggs, she shares her advice for interracial families and raising multiracial children.

If you missed out on part 1 of this convo, you may want to go back and listen prior to this episode! Dr. Shantel Buggs is a leading scholar and researcher on interracial relationships and multiracial individuals. She's an Assistant Professor in the Department of Sociology and African American Studies at FSU. You can find her online here: https://shantelgbuggs.com/, and on Twitter: https://twitter.com/sgbuggs Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

95: A Convo About (Mixed) Race with Dr. Buggs (Part 1 of 2)

Sun, 13 Sep 2020 23:59:29 -0300

One of the most eye-opening interviews we've ever conducted, Dr. Buggs not only fills us in on current research trends related to mixed race children and interracial relationships; she openly shares her own stories and experiences of being the child of a white mother and Black father in modern-day America.

You don't want to miss this enlightening interview that highlights the struggle of mixed race children being seen as the "saviors" of racism world-wide.

Dr. Shantel Buggs is a leading scholar and researcher on interracial relationships and multiracial individuals. She's an Assistant Professor in the Department of Sociology and African American Studies at FSU. You can find her online here: https://shantelgbuggs.com/, and on Twitter: https://twitter.com/sgbuggs

94: Interrupting Biased And Racist Language

Mon, 07 Sep 2020 23:59:19 -0300

How do you interrupt biased and/or racist language when you see it or hear it? We give 4 tips on how to interrupt this type of language and hold people accountable in this episode. Resources mentioned: Buzzwords Busted: Fake News Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

93: Leading Successful Diversity Initiatives (w/ Dr. Gold)

Sun, 30 Aug 2020 16:45:31 -0300

Equity, diversity, and inclusion (EDI) are hot topics recently; the number of organizations seeking to expand (or start!) EDI initiatives has skyrocketed this summer. Dr. Shaunna Payne Gold, an Assistant Provost of Diversity & Inclusion and the owner of an EDI consulting firm: Gold Enterprises, LLC, stops by our podcast to discuss what effective leadership in equity, diversity, and inclusion initiatives should look like in your organization. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com

92: Buzzwords Busted: Fake News

Mon, 24 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0300

"Fake news" has been a popular term over the past 4 years. But, is how it's being used actually what it means? In today's episode, we discuss:

What fake news is;
Who creates fake news;
How does fake news spread;
and what you can do to protect yourself from fake news.

https://www.journalism.org/2019/06/05/many-americans-say-made-up-news-is-a-critical-problem-that-needs-to-be-fixed/

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2019/06/fake-news-republicans-democrats/591211/

https://www.cits.ucsb.edu/fake-news/brief-history

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/craigsilverman/how-macedonia-became-a-global-hub-for-pro-trump-misinfo#.wvx77DzqP

https://www.npr.org/sections/alltechconsidered/2016/11/23/503146770/npr-finds-the-head-of-a-covert-fake-news-operation-in-the-suburbs

https://www.cits.ucsb.edu/fake-news/spread

https://www.cits.ucsb.edu/fake-news/what-can-i-do

91: Exercise Should Be A Celebration (with A'Naja Newsome)

Mon, 17 Aug 2020 03:39:16 -0300

Tune in to this week's podcast episode with special guest, A'Naja Newsome- owner of A.M. Health & Fitness Consulting, LLC. We talk about her research exploring the barriers to exercise in marginalized populations and why she's come to understand exercise as celebration rather than punishment.

90: Buzzwords Busted: The Ghetto

Mon, 10 Aug 2020 01:33:20 -0300

In this episode we talk about one of the most controversial terms today: "ghetto." Content warning - referral to drug use. Subscribe to our weekly newsletter; you'll get our latest podcast episode, our newest blog article, and discover everything we've been reading, listening to, and watching that week! Find out more about us at successinblackandwhite.com Resources for today's episode:

https://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/2014/04/27/306829915/segregated-from-its-history-how-ghetto-lost-its-meaning

https://www.bostonfairhousing.org/timeline/1934-1968-FHA-Redlining.html

https://time

.com/5684505/ghetto-word-history/

https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-35296993

89: Buzzwords Busted: I Got "Gypped"

Mon, 03 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0300

This week's dive into our Buzzword's Busted phrase "I Got Gypped" actually stems from a word I (April) used last week in the podcast. This phrase is so common to me; I've heard it and I've said it whenever I feel cheated out of something. Discover the racial epitaph behind this phrase- the history will blow your mind, and like we've been saying: "when you know better, you do better."

88: Buzzwords Busted: The History Behind "Thug"

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 02:28:25 -0300

For the past five years, we have heard the elevation of the word "THUG" in negative political narratives; and for the past two decades, we've seen the word "THUG" embraced in the black and hip-hop communities. But how many people know where this term actually originated from? It might surprise you. This week, we discuss the history of this buzzword and the cultural relevance today.

Resource mentioned:

(2013) What's a Thug's Life Looked Like in 19th Century India, CodeSwitch
(2015) The Racially Charged Meaning Behind the Word 'Thug'. NPR

87: Buzzwords Busted: The History Behind "Manifest Destiny"

Mon, 20 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0300

A quick Google search for "how can I manifest..." returns 183,000,000 results. Major influencers like Oprah use the term "manifestation" often, and the President has even used "Manifest Destiny" in the State of the Union address. We wanted to know more about this term. So today, we dug deep into history so we could talk about the cultural relevance of this term then and now. You definitely don't want to miss this episode

Resource mentioned:

National Humanities Center: "Manifest Destiny": http://nationalhumanitiescenter.org/tserve/nineteen/nkeyinfo/mandestiny.htm

Washington Post: Trump's 'Manifest Destiny' in space revives old phrase to provocative effect: https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2020/02/05/trumps-manifest-destiny-space-revives-old-phrase-provocative-effect/

Scene on Radio podcast series (learn your history): https://www.sceneonradio.org/

86: Bridging The Gap Between Racial Boundaries

Mon, 13 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0300

This week we discuss how we will be refocusing our podcast and business endeavors. Take a quick jog with us down memory lane and hear how we came to the decision to refine our offerings based on the need and current social climate. Stay tuned as we transition to this next journey in our lives, business, and podcast as we "Bridge the Racial Boundaries Gap" in our nation.

85: Refocus Your Energy

Mon, 06 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0300

Y'all...we're tired. But, we're pushing through because the work that needs to happen now in our lives and society is important. Find out how to push through and continue working on the things that matter, how to conserve your energy, and how to step back when needed.

Resource mentioned:

Rest, Relax, & Recharge: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/25abfea5/relax-rest-and-recharge

Scene on Radio podcast series: https://www.sceneonradio.org/

84: Keep Your Foot On The Gas - The Fight Against Racism In America

Tue, 30 Jun 2020 03:26:24 -0300

Do you inspire people? Are you a disrupter? Are you an educator? Whatever your role in pushing society forward from here on out, this episode is to encourage you to KEEP GOING! Even when it feels rough. Even when you may feel exhausted. Even when you aren't sure how to modify your role to fit into your sphere of influence. give up because in the middle of a social revolution, you need to be doing important and necessary work.

Resource mentioned:

Black Voices Amplified Series (top of page): https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes

Scene on Radio, Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

83: Black Voices Amplified - Moving Forward

Mon, 15 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0300

We are wrapping up our Black Voices Amplified series (for now!) with a final episode highlighting our respondents' answers to the question "What does the world look like for you after this?". We end with discussions about next steps and moving forward.

"I continue to do the work to impact those I can and they do the same...I think of ripples on the water where I am the stone."

"My perfect world is where black people and other minorities are treated equally and given the same benefit of the doubt that white people are given."

"My world is one in which talent and performance always wins. One where my intellect, passion, and ability is no longer seen as a threat."

Resource mentioned:

Scene on Radio, Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

82: Black Voices Amplified - No Filter

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0300

This is the no-holds-barred episode. No filter, just real answers. Better grab a drink and settle in.

"You love Black culture, Black innovation, and Black music, but you hate the thought of us fighting for our liberation from oppression because it makes you uncomfortable. So all I ask is for you (white people/fake allies/non-Black folks who bear witness without intervention) is to saying you care about Black people when all of your actions say otherwise. Just clear the air and say you love what we create but you hate us."

"...Recognize your privilege because it is powerful. Acknowledge that white supremacy and patriarchy is baked into our social structure and it causes harm to people of color on every continent. I would ask them to see my humanity before my skin color. Then I would ask, what are you fully committed to do to change a society that has always benefited you?"

"Don't give me any platitudes about your embrace of diversity and inclusion when your administration, your cabinet, and leadership fails to have someone that looks like me. You allow Black and Brown people to leave in droves, but make ways for White colleagues to realize promotions. Until there is change, real change, in hiring and promotion, and salary equity, there will never be real embrace of diversity and you will never realize inclusion."

This week, we reached out to black family, friends, and colleagues so that we could tell their stories. In part 3, we amplify Black voices with no filter in the wake of the widely-broadcast murder of George Floyd as well as Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery.

Resource mentioned:

Scene on Radio, Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

81: Black Voices Amplified - The Coping Process

Wed, 10 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0300

"I wish people knew there are different forms of protest and healing is part of that. My healing is sometimes disengaging from news and social media for my own mental health."

"I try to unplug from media sources just enough so that the trauma/rage I'm coping with doesn't envelop me, while still remaining informed. I wish people knew my super power was stealthfully dealing with thousands of racially-motivated micro-aggressions inflicted upon me my entire life and not reacting negatively to them."

"I wish people knew how exhausting this coping process is and how long it takes to recover from the highs and low associated with the emotions I feel. I wish people recognized that their attempts to be helpful are often centered around their own need to feel absolved. They need to engage in their own self-discovery and not rely on a Black friend to be their guide or do it for them."

This week, we reached out to black family, friends, and colleagues so that we could tell their stories. In part 2, we amplify the coping processes used in the wake of the widely-broadcast murder of George Floyd as well as Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery.

Resource mentioned:

The Meeting After the Meeting: Black Google: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5dzlNmqFturMiSXgBFXAdp?si=VgqkYp8cS8iDBEVXv7-6-w

Success in Black and White: Codeswitch Episodes
1: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/4b850ce6/54-codeswitch-real-talk-part-1-of-2
2: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/4c66b37f/55-codeswitch-real-talk-part-2-of-2

80: Black Voices Amplified - The Hard Truths Of Racism

Mon, 08 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0300

"The hardest part in the aftermath has been determining how to raise my voice and protest. I find that my emotive side is ready to scream at the world while my internal deliberative voice is telling me to "mind my manners" or "remember you still need your job."

" That no matter what in 2020, we’re still treated as less than animals. That when I take off my military uniform I am George Floyd or Ahmaud Arbery."

" We are so easily killed and our lives have no value."

This week, we reached out to black family, friends, and colleagues so that we could tell their stories. In part 1, we amplify the hard truths that have emerged since the widely-broadcast murder of George Floyd as well as Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery.

Resource mentioned:

Scene on Radio: Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

79: The Aftermath - Racism In America

Mon, 01 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0300

Today, we were short on groceries. No veggies left. No fruit. My vegan husband does not live well on pasta alone. So I put the kids down for a nap and went out back where Darryl was working on installing more pavers into our already fabulously-transformed backyard.

"Im heading to Publix."

"Ok," he said. "I'll check in on the kids."

Just then, we heard a loud POP POP POP POP POP ricochet throughout our neighborhood. Probably the neighbors shooting off their firecrackers, I thought, but my heart still shot up into my throat. I shook it off and pulled out of the driveway, onto our main drive. As I was going 25mph down our neighborhood drag, a cop flew into the neighborhood going probably 75mph, lights and siren on.

I panicked. I felt sick. I fought the urge to turn around and follow the cop. I didn't want my husband to think I was being melodramatic. I called him, he didn't answer. My mind raced. What if they see him, sweaty, in his workout gear on the side of the house from cutting pavers all day? What if they don't give him a chance to tell his story? What if I'm not there to vouch for him like the times I've had to in the past? What if the kids wake up and their dad is in the back of a cop car, or worse?

I couldn't help it. I made my way to the store and started shopping, reassuring myself with the name of Jesus for an hour and a half (but silently freaking out and trying to keep it all together)...

Hear more about today's incident from both of our perspectives and more about the aftermath of racism in America in this episode.

Episodes mentioned:

Being an Interracial Couple (episodes 1 through 4 on the top of our episodes page): https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes

Scene on Radio: Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

78: A Conversation About Motivation

Mon, 18 May 2020 00:00:00 -0300

What motivates you? We talk about how we get motivated and stay motivated, including the times we aren't excited to finish a project or commitment.

Episodes mentioned:

How Perfectionism is Affecting Your Life: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/4191f7b4/60-how-perfectionism-is-affecting-your-life

Get Over the Bullshift: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/37c3ac7b/53-get-over-the-bull-shift

Let It Go: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/be18ee5e/63-let-it-go-letting-the-past-go

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77: Don't Get Taken Advantage Of

Mon, 11 May 2020 00:00:00 -0300

Ooooooo, we've got a juicy one today! We call out the people on social media (and maybe even in your life!) who use emotional manipulation to take advantage of you during this time. If you've gotten hit up to buy products, take an online course, or even donate to a charity or else you're a "bad person" or "wasting your life", we're talkin' to you today.

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76: We Talk Self Care During COVID-19

Mon, 04 May 2020 00:00:00 -0300

We talk self care while staying home!! Tune in today.

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75: Losing Your Patience?

Mon, 27 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0300

We're still quarantining! It's difficult to be stuck in the same spaces, with the same people, day after day. So how do you cope when you lose your patience with them? In this episode, we talk about the strategies we use when we lose our patience with our kids and each other right now. If you are in cramped quarters with people you're close to, you don't want to miss this episode.

Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Group

74: Take Advantage Of This Opportunity

Mon, 20 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0300

During this time of social distancing, we are exhausted, drained, and a little worried. But we are also taking advantage of this opportunity that has been dropped in our lap to do the things we've been saying for years we need to do! Find out what we're talking about in this episode.

73: Focus vs. Control

Mon, 13 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0300

Heading into week 5(?) of social distancing, we discuss how we're living during these times, including one of Darryl's main strategies: Don't focus on what you can control. What if you can't even focus?? Instead, work on focus and control separately. Tune in to learn more about this incredibly perceptive strategy to manage your stress and anxiety and to continue to be productive in unlikely environments.

72: Real Talk - Working From Home, Relationships and More

Mon, 06 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0300

It has been 3 weeks since we've been able to record! With all the craziness happening in the world around us, we wanted to get a chance to talk about what's on our minds and how we've been dealing with this new, temporary normal. You dont want to miss this unplanned and candid conversation. You'll be able to relate, but don't worry, we're not talking about anything doom and gloom!

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71: Dealing With A Heavy Workload

Mon, 09 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0300

With employees today saying that they have 60%-70% more work stress than their colleagues did 30 years ago (Pew Research Center), we felt it was imperative to discuss heavy workloads. Tune in to hear us talk to employees about how to manage heavy workloads and what to do if their workload is too large to bear. Don't worry- we'll also talk to employers about how to help their employees manage heavy workloads so you get more productivity from your employees at the end of the day!

Article referenced: Harvard Business Review: Heavy Workloads
Podcast episode referenced: Episode 42: It's Your Job to Do The Dishes If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Group

70: Why Context Matters

Mon, 02 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0400

Context matters! In this episode we talk about the times we've seen things taken out of context, and even talk about a stupid fight we had this week over a watch. Tune in to find out what happens when things get taken out of context; how to get better at providing context when talking, and how to discover context someone may not be giving you up-front.

69: Don't Lose Yourself This Political Season

Mon, 24 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0400

Why do people on the "other side" of the political fence attach themselves to the candidates they do? What should you do when you see a political meme or news story on social media that gets you fired up? How do you move forward from an outcome of a political election you don't like or agree with? Today's podcast will give you perspective on how to not lose who you are during the 2020 political season.

68: When People Feel Victimized By Your Success

Mon, 17 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0400

Leveling up is good news for you: you may get that long-awaited promotion, find your life partner, or find success in your business. However, it can leave friends, coworkers, family members, or other relationships you have with a "bitter taste in their mouths," so to speak. Jealousy, gossip, and victimization may ensue, making you wonder "what happened?" or "why are they acting so differently towards me?". In this episode, we talk about the reasons why this happens; as well as give you 4 tips to continue succeeding even with push-back from people we are close to.

67: Your Purpose vs. Your Calling

Mon, 10 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0400

Guess what? Your purpose is different from your calling. And so many people struggle to figure out what their purpose is or what they are called to do on this earth. We dive in to help you discover your purpose and your calling in this episode.

66: Keep Up The Good Fight

Mon, 03 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0400

Every now and then we all need a little encouragement to help us as we fight for what we want. We hope this episodes does just that, give you a little boost as you strive for your goals. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Group

65: Become An Effective Decision Maker

Mon, 27 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0400

Ever struggled with making big decisions? In this episode, we talk about how to make effective decisions when the stakes are high. Resources: The Effective Decision: Harvard Business Review Episode: Making Tough Decisions If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Group

64: I Met My Goals - Now What

Mon, 13 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0400

What comes next after you meet your goals? Join us today with our special guest, Adriana Lovett, as we talk about the moving forward once you've achieved success.

63: Let It Go (Letting The Past Go)

Mon, 30 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0400

As the new year- the new DECADE- draws closer to us, we see all of you making those New Year Resolutions!

Not to sound discouraging, but did you know that the failure rate of New Year Resolutions is around 80%?! One of the reasons for so many broken resolutions may be that you are holding on to past hurts, past failures, past negative experiences and not letting them go so that you can GROW! In this episode, we talk about how to move forward by letting go of your past. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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62: Remaining Positive In An Unsettling World

Mon, 23 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0400

Have you ever met people that are positive ALL THE TIME? You know, the ones that can find the silver lining in any circumstance? The annoying people who seem to find joy in everyday, mundane tasks and chores? Well nice to meet you, friend! You're in good company with two positive souls! We know that it can be hard to remain positive in today's world. Politics, broken dreams, terrible stories on social media, boring jobs that seem like they're going nowhere- all of these can contribute to feelings of negativity and depression. So today we're here to talk through what it's like to be positive all the time (honestly- a practiced trait!); where we find our joy; and also give you some practical tips to focus on the positive in every circumstance! If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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61: Showing A Little Appreciation

Mon, 16 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0400

How do you build appreciation into your life? What are you thankful for, what makes you content? In this episode we explore the things we've been learning to really appreciate recently. If you want to learn how to be happier in your day-to-day, you don't want to miss this episode! Resources Mentioned: The Five Love Languages in the Workplace: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/2017/09/love-languages-workplace/ If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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60: How Perfectionism Is Affecting Your Life

Mon, 09 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0400

The holiday season is usually the pursuit of "perfection": we want the perfect Christmas tree, the perfect decor, the perfect holiday outfit, the perfect holiday party, the perfect gift, the perfect meal, and on and on. It's exhausting, really. But we know a thing or two about perfection. Tune in to this week's episode to learn how perfectionism can affect your life and what to do if you just want to chill and enjoy the season! If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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59: Codeswitch: The Follow-Up

Mon, 02 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0400

We finally sat down to talk through all of the feedback we received after our now infamous Codeswitch episodes. You don't want to miss our answers to your burning questions like:

"Aren't you afraid of becoming a target at your job?"
"What's the best way to embrace diversity without seeming like an imposter?"

And more! Resources mentioned: Codeswitch Part 1: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/54-codeswitch-real-talk-part-1-of-2/ Codeswitch Part 2: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/55-codeswitch-real-talk-part-2-of-2/ Scene on Radio, Seeing White series: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/ If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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58: An Attitude Of Gratitude

Mon, 25 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0400

Adopting an "attitude of gratitude" has literally turned my (April's) life around. I went through a terrible, awful, no good, very bad work situation (shoutout to one of my fav childhood book s); my kids were whiny-er than ever; I felt like I could never get the house clean; I never had time to cook; and the piles of laundry were insurmountable mountains of folding I could never defeat.

However, what I didn't realize for a long time is that all the toxicity that came from the above things was actually toxicity coming from MYSELF. I was the toxic one. And so, gratitude was one of my last options to change my situation. And it worked! In this episode we talk about the little ways you can show gratitude and begin to turn your life around. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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57: Know When To Let Go

Mon, 18 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0400

If any of you follow me (April) on social media, you'll have seen a maybe-surprising post from me this past Friday. As Darryl and I have been exploring our values and our faith, we've come to some not-so-culturally-popular understandings of the way we need to continue forward in our lives and with this podcast.

Listen now for our candid and raw conversation about what we've discovered. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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56: FAQ's With The Lovett's

Mon, 11 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0400

Ever wondered how we "do it all"?

Wondered how we pick our podcast topics? Or on top of that, how we even started a podcast?

Or do you follow us on social media and wonder why in the WORLD did we go plant-based (vegan) and how do we maintain it?

This week, we answer these questions and more in our first FAQ session! If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White.

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55: Codeswitch Real Talk (Part 2 of 2)

Mon, 04 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0400

This week, get ready for more real talk regarding codeswitching. Darryl talks about his experiences in work settings and honestly answers my (April) questions about if he's ever used codeswitching language or behaviors in our relationship. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White.

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54: Codeswitch Real Talk (Part 1 of 2)

Mon, 28 Oct 2019 01:00:00 -0300

In this series, we have a heavy conversation around the topic of.... conversations. More specifically, how individuals in minority races and ethnicities have to use codeswitching in order to fit in with, gain traction with, or simply get treated equally among dominant groups. Darryl shares his stories about how he first learned codeswitching and now, how he has to do it on a daily basis. This episode is part 1 of a 2 part series, and trust me, you don't want to miss either this week's or next week's episode.

Resources mentioned:

Key & Peele, Obama Meet and Greet: https://youtu.be/nopWOC4SRm4 The Codeswitch Podcast: https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510312/codeswitch

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53: Get Over The Bull-Shift

Mon, 21 Oct 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Some life changes happen quickly and you have to learn to adapt fast in order to survive your new circumstances. However, most life changes happen over time, in a shifting pattern that is barely recognizable until you are on the other side of the change. In this episode we talk about how life-shifts occur in work and in your relationships, and how to navigate them so you are stronger on the other side. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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52: 1 Year In The Books

Mon, 14 Oct 2019 01:00:00 -0300

We have been doing this for a YEAR!! One full year, 52 weeks! And that is all due to you, our listeners!

This week, we want to say THANK YOU for tuning in every week with us.

In this week's episode, we took a walk down memory lane and revisited some of our favorite episodes. Check out each of the episodes we revisit: Episode 1: The Nitty Gritty Episode 5: Making Tough Decisions Episode 9: In It For The Long Haul (w/special guests Chantel & Bryan Nelson) Episode 12: Being an Interracial Couple- Part 1 Episode 13: Being an Interracial Couple- Part 2 Episode 14: Being an Interracial Couple- Part 3 Episode 15: Being an Interracial Couple- Part 4 Episode 17: Loving Your Partner Episode 34: How to Give Productive Feedback Episode 40: She Touched Me But It Wasn't My Fault Episode 42: It's Your Job To Do The Dishes If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

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51: Have You Defined Your Values?

Mon, 07 Oct 2019 01:00:00 -0300

"Last night, we were supposed to record this episode. Instead, we had to have a long, heart-to-heart conversation about something that was bothering Darryl: really laying out our family values for ourselves and our children."

See, we've been down this road. We lead values-based workshops, we've determined and set our own values for ourselves and our relationship; yet, we realized that we really needed to set them for our family.

In this episode, we talk about HOW we do this in our workshops (even grab a FREE copy of the values elimination sheet we're talking about in our Level-Up Portal - HERE) and Darryl talks about his used-to-be-very-lucrative-nightlife working in the clubs and how that's changed now that he's a family man.

If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Community

50: It's Okay To Step Out On Your Comfort Zone

Mon, 30 Sep 2019 01:00:00 -0300

In this episode, Darryl brings the HEAT. He talks about the collateral damage that can happen to you when you stay in your comfort zone, and gets downright personal when he talks about a past long-term relationship in which he was stuck in a comfort zone. Trust me (April), you don't want to miss this juicy episode! Episodes Referenced: Making Tough Decisions: Click Here How to Give Productive Feedback: Click Here How to Take Feedback Like a Champ: Click Here If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Community

49: Go After What You Want

Mon, 23 Sep 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Are you in the driver's seat, making the decisions for your life? Or do you sit in the passenger seat and let circumstances dictate your life? In this episode, we talk about why it's important to have intention and be deliberate in how you achieve your goals. We also discuss how we have to work around our VERY different personality tendencies when we set intentions or work towards achieving something in our relationship, our business, or as parents. You'll hear how we had to go with the flow when we were expecting our first child, how we meticulously planned for our second child, how we deliberately worked the system for our destination wedding, and our usual tips and takeaways so you can put deliberation and intention into your lives on a daily basis! If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Community

48: Setting Boundaries When Sharing Information

Mon, 16 Sep 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Back when we found out we were expecting our first child, we realized that not only would it be life-changing, it would also be... work-changing. Because we worked together, we could feel the gossip-mill turning before we ever even announced that we were pregnant (mainly because we hadn't told many people we were even dating... the pregnancy was bound to be a HUGE surprise).

In this episode, we discuss the boundaries we've learned to set surrounding sharing personal information at work. You'll not only get a very personal story from us, but you'll learn how to navigate sharing personal information with colleagues, clients, and customers. Episodes & Resources Discussed: Episode 1: The Nitty Gritty Episode 5: Making Tough Decisions FREE AFFIRMATIONS CUT-OUTS: Our motivational daily affirmation cards are perfect for aspiring entrepreneurs, goal-crushers and anyone looking to have a kick-ass day, everyday. Grab yours for FREE here: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/resources If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Community

47: It's Okay To Let Your Guard Down

Mon, 09 Sep 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Letting your guard down can be scary. So many people will build walls to protect themselves from getting hurt, but then wonder why they aren't successful in their relationships or even in their careers.
Vulnerability is the key to success, because without it, you can't ever begin to build strong relationships with your partner or with coworkers, friends, or family members.

In this episode, we get (*gasp*) vulnerable discussing letting our guards down. Episodes & Resources Discussed: Episode: "The Biggest Fears Holding You Back" FREE GOAL-CRUSHER'S GUIDE & WORKBOOK: Need help setting and achieving goals? Don't worry, we've got your back. We will email you our comprehensive goal-setting workbook that will take you from the beginning (got nothing but feel like you should have goals??) to the end (goals achieved? Great job!). Grab it here: Goal Crusher Guide If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Community -----

46: Let Me Validate Ya

Mon, 02 Sep 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Validation is a necessary part of life. We use validation every time we look up Yelp's "Top 10 Restaurants" while we're traveling. We require validation to ensure that we are doing a good job at work. However, validation can go too far when we start to rely on it in order to feel like we have worth. The things that other people think of us shouldn't dictate how we feel about ourselves or our behaviors, but they often do. In this episode, we discuss the concept of validation, the harm it can have, and our tips for getting over needing validation from others in order to feel worthwhile. Episodes & Resources Discussed: Episode: "How to Give Feedback" Episode: "Leading Down- Part I" Episode: "Leading Down- Part II" FREE LEVEL-UP WORKSHEETS: We've taken sections of our success coaching manual and couples coaching workbooks and tailored them to our episodes! Check out our Level-Up portal for exclusive access to our free self-development content! "Level Up Portal" If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Community

45: The Biggest Fears Holding You Back

Mon, 26 Aug 2019 01:00:00 -0300

In this episode, we tackle a heavy topic: the fears that hold us back from success. We talk about:

1. The Fear of Inadequacy
2. The Fear of Failure
3. The Fear of Losing Control
4. The Fear of Judgment

We talk through the ways to overcome these common fears; trust me, you don't want to miss it! Episodes & Resources Discussed: "How to Bounce Back": Episode 36- How to Rebound from a Mistake FREE Affirmation Cards: Verbal affirmations are a powerful tool to help you achieve success. Our free printable affirmation cut-outs are small enough you can post anywhere or take them with you when you need some motivation! https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/resources If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Community

44: How We're Successful As A Couple

Mon, 19 Aug 2019 01:00:00 -0300

One of the questions we get ALL THE TIME is "how do you continue to work together, be successful, and not hate each other??"

Honestly, it takes work. It's easier to "let things go" that will later bubble up into resentment than to have the hard conversation right away. It's easier to sit around and watch TV than to spend time together day-in-and-day-out working on your relationship or towards a shared goal. It's easier to just do parenting your way and expect your partner to jump on-board than to have some of those harder conversations up-front.

But- we've committed to not only having a good life together, but to having an extraordinary life together. In this episode, we give your our 4 tips to ensure that you are successful as a couple. Resource Mentioned: Download your FREE Goal-Crusher's Guide! This in-depth, 7-page workbook will help you determine your goals and create action steps to achieve them: successinblackandwhite.com/goalcrushers If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Group

43: Don't Be Scared... Speak Up For Yourself

Tue, 13 Aug 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Ever been passed up for a promotion or a raise at work? Ever been passed up for a project? Ever felt like you weren't getting what you needed from your partner in your relationship? Ever just feel like you AREN'T BEING HEARD? In this episode, we are discussing strategies you can use when advocating for yourself in your various relationships- romantic relationships, familial relationships, and work relationships. Resources mentioned: Jocko Willink podcast: http://jockopodcast.com/ Level Up Your Confidence Game: Episode 41 - Level Up Your Confidence Game If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White. Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Group

42: It's Your Job To Do The Dishes

Tue, 06 Aug 2019 01:00:00 -0300

"Can he just help me with the dishes for once?" "Can she stop slamming cupboards in there...what is wrong with her??! " In this episode, you're getting the insiders view into our relationship roles; the struggles we've had defining them; and how we finally were able to bring peace to our relationship by supporting each other in the most mundane things there are in life: household chores. Episodes mentioned: "Communication Episodes" Success in Black and White episode 34: How to Give Productive Feedback Success in Black and White episode 35: How to Take Feedback Like a Champ If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White.

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41: Level Up Your Confidence Game

Tue, 30 Jul 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Some people just seem to have it all together, don't they? They kill it in their business, their marriage is all romance and fun, their kids are well-behaved and participate in EVERYTHING, they find time to exercise and grab coffee with their friends, and they do it all with supreme self-confidence. Meanwhile, the rest of us mortals can take a hit to our confidence levels when we don't finish a project at work, our kids scream in the car the entire ride home from school, and we just haven't exercised in 2 (ahem, 3) weeks.

Because self-confidence is tied to success, we took this episode to provide some tangible ways for you to build your confidence. We also explore the thin line between self-confidence and ego, and the effects of ego on success.

Episodes mentioned: Oprah's Super Soul Conversations: Oprah on the False Power of Ego Ed Mylett Show: A Mental Health Homerun with Aubrey Huff Success in Black and White: Surviving Transitions: Surviving Transitions If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White

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40: She Touched Me... But It Wasn't My Fault

Tue, 23 Jul 2019 01:00:00 -0300

You know that feeling when someone touches your partner RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU?? Well, I do (April speaking here). So on our special anniversary edition of the podcast (happy July 23rd anniversary to us!), Darryl and I talk about a couple of different scenarios: one happened to our friends and one happened when a bold, brazen lady put her hands on Darryl. Trust me, you really don't want to miss this episode. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning (CC) available for hearing impaired. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel

NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: Facebook Group

39: Embrace The Moment

Tue, 16 Jul 2019 01:00:00 -0300

The other night I (April) was making dinner when Darryl called over to me to come watch the kids dance to a Beyonce song. "Hurry, this is so cute," he said. "Just a minute!" I yelled, trying to hurry the stir-fry on the stove through the last minute until it was done, not wanting it to burn. I set down my spatula and peeked out to the living room where of course, I had missed the cute dancing moment. As I held Von that night, I felt guilt and remorse for having missed a precious moment that I knew I'd never get back. This week, we talk about learning how to embrace the moment. From parent guilt to letting other people hold us back from our business, to those times we've let each other drag us back into our past; we discuss times we've lived well in the moment and the times we've (regrettably) let moments pass us by. Episodes mentioned: Episode 38 (Surviving Transitions): https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/38-surviving-transitions/ Episode 8 (This One's For the Haters): https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/this-ones-for-the-haters/ If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public

NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

38: Surviving Transitions

Tue, 09 Jul 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Transitions happen in life. No matter what the transition (football, finding out we were having a baby, starting our business), we've used these 3 life-transition hacks to survive major changes.

1. Acknowledge the transition
2. Give yourself time to process the transition
3. Be patient

Past Episodes Referenced:

Episode 5: Making Tough Decision: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/making-tough-decisions/

Episode 8: This One's For The Haters: https://podcast.successinblackandwhite.com/e/this-ones-for-the-haters/

NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

37: Are You In Tune With Your Intuition

Tue, 02 Jul 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Intuition is a powerful thing, isn't it? In this episode, I (April) talk about a time that I ignored my intuition; resulting in scary consequences. We discuss our 4 tips to increase self-awareness and hone your intuition:

1. Listen to what others have to say about you
2. Know your triggers
3. Start listening to your intuition
4. Get in tune with how your actions indicate your feelings If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

36: How To Rebound From A Mistake

Tue, 25 Jun 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Mistakes. They happen to all of us. In this episode, we get REAL about a mistake we both made and how we had to overcome it. You'll get tips on how to overcome mistakes so that you aren't left wallowing in self-pity or finding yourself making the same mistake over and over again. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/ Resources mentioned in this podcast: Walter Bond: motivational speaker & business coach: https://walterbond.com/ Jocko Willink: former Navy Seal, motivational speaker, leadership consultant: http://jockopodcast.com/

35: How To Take Feedback Like A Champ

Tue, 18 Jun 2019 12:32:31 -0300

Do you get defensive when you get feedback? So do I (April speaking here). Most people do, so in this episode, we talk about a situation that happened to us the day before we recorded (a "crucial discussion" that occurred between the two of us) and how we were able to resolve our conflict in LESS THAN 1 HOUR- with action plans and everything. Here are the tips you'll hear about so you can take feedback like a champ! 1. Listen to Understand 2. Don't get Defensive 3. Ask Questions for Clarity 4. Make Your Action Plans to Resolve the Situation If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms. NEW: We've create an online community for interracial couples and multiracial families! Join our community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/325848578316687/

34: How To Give Productive Feedback

Tue, 11 Jun 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Have you ever had to sit down and have "the talk" with someone? You know... that talk about how they need to improve their performance in order to get better in their _____________ (job, relationship, friendship... you name it). It's not easy to have "the talk" with someone. In this week's episode, we break down our tips for giving feedback that is productive... meaning the person you're giving feedback to will be more likely to CHANGE! Here are a few of our tips: 1. Never give feedback to an individual in front of a crowd. 2. Be specific. 3. Incorporate both positive and negative in your feedback. 4. Prioritize and specify the action steps that person can take to improve. If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

33: Don't Be Stupid: Tips for Self-Growth

Tue, 04 Jun 2019 01:00:00 -0300

This week, we spill our secrets to self-growth and development!

In our discussion about the ways we've been successful in teaching ourselves ALL. THE. THINGS., we go over:

1. how we've found our mentors,
2. how we learned how to produce this podcast,
3. and, how we've learned how to just "figure it out" (and done it successfully) even if we don't have the skills when we first start something! If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! You can subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkOoeGsCjnC-uxA5GSMXNQg?view_as=public Don't forget to follow us via social media for more motivation, leadership & success tips, and a view into our everyday lives. Darryl: @iamdarryllovett on all platforms; April: @aprildawnlovett on all platforms.

32: Know When to Be Quiet

Tue, 28 May 2019 01:00:00 -0300

We had a really tough conversation a few weeks ago, and got into a fight a few weeks before that. For a couple that doesn't get into "spats" often, we still have our fair share of them. In this episode, we talk about how we learned (over time) to communicate effectively with each other. We share our tips to ensure that difficult conversations we have are actually productive, such as: 1. Knowing when to be quiet 2. Practicing active listening (it's not what you think it is) 3. Being spot-on with the timing of our discussions 4. Understanding the importance of "word play"

31: Reprogramming Your Mindset

Tue, 21 May 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Have an unmotivated mindset? A lack of confidence? A limiting belief you struggle with? This week, we talk about the times we’ve struggled with negative mindsets and how we overcame them. You’ll get tips on how to reprogram your mind when it matters most.

Follow our social media accounts (@iamdarryllovett and @aprildawnlovett)

You can now watch us Live on YouTube

Check out our website for more detailed information at www.successinblackandwhite.com

Stop Lying to Yourself

Mon, 13 May 2019 23:31:34 -0300

What are the biggest lies you’ve believed in the past or even catch yourself believing now?

We break down some of the biggest lies that men and women believe. Catch our candid conversations in this episode as we discuss working moms, the need to be a “tough” man, standards of beauty, how women try to control relationships, and more.

Relax Rest and Recharge

Tue, 07 May 2019 01:00:00 -0300

In this season of our lives, stress abounds. We have full-time jobs, our business, the podcast, and two very young children. This week, we took a break from life to recharge and to talk to you about the importance of disconnecting from everyday life. Tune in to hear how we recharge our batteries!

School of Leadership: Leading Up (Part 2)

Tue, 30 Apr 2019 01:00:00 -0300

This week, in our final episode of the School of Leadership Series, we finish telling you all about the wisdom we've gained from our personal experiences leading up! This week, you'll learn more about how to display your leadership skills even when you aren't the top dog; how to appropriately take up your leader's time; and how to know when to push an issue and when to back off of it, to name a few!

School of Leadership: Leading Up (Part 1)

Tue, 23 Apr 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Tune in as we round out the School of Leadership with '9 Tips to Lead Your Leader' (Part I)!

You'll learn the difference between leading up and managing up; you'll hear tips from a top-level leader about how to allow others to lead up to you; and you'll get the first few tips we have for those of you looking to LEAD YOUR LEADERS! Here's a sneak peek:

1. Use self-management principles to demonstrate that you can lead yourself exceptionally well...
2. Lighten up your leader's load by offering to take things of their plate when possible...
3. Demonstrate a "whatever-it-takes" attitude- but be cautious of the negative ways this could come off...

School of Leadership: Leading Across

Tue, 16 Apr 2019 01:00:00 -0300

No doubt, leading those that are your equals (coworkers, peers) is much harder than leading those that you have positional power over (staff, employees, followers). In today's episode, we discuss how to stand out as an influencer and leader among your peers. Today you'll learn tips and tricks to ensure that you can effectively lead across while also garnering respect.

School of Leadership: Leading Down (Part 2)

Tue, 09 Apr 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Tune in to Leading Down- Part II as we finish up discussing how to lead from a position of power. We talk about how to best model the behavior you want to see, even when it's difficult; how to inspire others with your vision for the organization; and how to reward your employees and/or followers (hint: gift cards are not the most sought-after option!).

School of Leadership: Leading Down (Part 1)

Tue, 02 Apr 2019 01:00:00 -0300

How do you effectively lead the people on your team that you have positional power over? In this episode you'll hear all about how we do this every day:

1. Walk the Halls: learn the best ways to build relationships with different work personalities;
2. See Everyone as a 10: see the best in your employees, even when it's difficult;
3. Develop Each Person: discover how to best do this, even when you have a large staff like Darryl (over 300 employees);
4. Place People in their Strength Zones: learn what happens when employees work in their strength zones (even if they fight it at first!)

School of Leadership: Leadership Styles (Part 2)

Tue, 26 Mar 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Get ready for Part 2 of the School of Leadership: Leadership Styles!

Find out which leadership style to use when you want to create the ultimate buy-in from employees/group members; discover how not to lose credibility as a leader when you have to toggle between different leadership styles; and learn how we teach our 3-year-old how to use the Coaching Leadership style!

School of Leadership: Leadership Styles (Part 1)

Tue, 19 Mar 2019 01:00:00 -0300

Welcome to the School of Leadership! In our new series, we use our combined two decades of leadership expertise to dig in and discuss important and sometimes difficult leadership topics.

This week we're kicking off the series with Part 1 of "Leadership Styles". Discover the types of leadership styles there are, when it's appropriate to use them, when we've personally used them, and even the times we've mistakenly used the wrong leadership styles in the wrong situations.

Referenced podcast episode: Episode 4 - "Started from the bottom - Now we're here.

Diet For Success (with Lauren Smith)

Tue, 12 Mar 2019 01:00:00 -0300

This week, Lauren Smith, RD of The Blondie Kitchen drops some knowledge on how to maintain a successful diet, the pros and cons of fad diets like Keto and Paleo, her journey to become a registered dietitian, and her tips for everyday success. You can follow Lauren: Instagram: @theblondiekitchen Pinterest: @theblondiekitchen Website: https://www.dietitiansofpalmvalley.com/lauren/