82: Black Voices Amplified - No Filter

This is the no-holds-barred episode. No filter, just real answers. Better grab a drink and settle in.

"You love Black culture, Black innovation, and Black music, but you hate the thought of us fighting for our liberation from oppression because it makes you uncomfortable. So all I ask is for you (white people/fake allies/non-Black folks who bear witness without intervention) is to saying you care about Black people when all of your actions say otherwise. Just clear the air and say you love what we create but you hate us."

"...Recognize your privilege because it is powerful. Acknowledge that white supremacy and patriarchy is baked into our social structure and it causes harm to people of color on every continent. I would ask them to see my humanity before my skin color. Then I would ask, what are you fully committed to do to change a society that has always benefited you?"

"Don't give me any platitudes about your embrace of diversity and inclusion when your administration, your cabinet, and leadership fails to have someone that looks like me. You allow Black and Brown people to leave in droves, but make ways for White colleagues to realize promotions. Until there is change, real change, in hiring and promotion, and salary equity, there will never be real embrace of diversity and you will never realize inclusion."

This week, we reached out to black family, friends, and colleagues so that we could tell their stories.  In part 3, we amplify Black voices with no filter in the wake of the widely-broadcast murder of George Floyd as well as Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery. 

Resource mentioned:

Scene on Radio, Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

81: Black Voices Amplified - The Coping Process

"I wish people knew there are different forms of protest and healing is part of that. My healing is sometimes disengaging from news and social media for my own mental health."

"I try to unplug from media sources just enough so that the trauma/rage I'm coping with doesn't envelop me, while still remaining informed. I wish people knew my super power was stealthfully dealing with thousands of racially-motivated micro-aggressions inflicted upon me my entire life and not reacting negatively to them."

"I wish people knew how exhausting this coping process is and how long it takes to recover from the highs and low associated with the emotions I feel. I wish people recognized that their attempts to be helpful are often centered around their own need to feel absolved. They need to engage in their own self-discovery and not rely on a Black friend to be their guide or do it for them."

This week, we reached out to black family, friends, and colleagues so that we could tell their stories.  In part 2, we amplify the coping processes used in the wake of the widely-broadcast murder of George Floyd as well as Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery. 

Resource mentioned:

The Meeting After the Meeting: Black Google: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5dzlNmqFturMiSXgBFXAdp?si=VgqkYp8cS8iDBEVXv7-6-w

Success in Black and White: Codeswitch Episodes
1: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/4b850ce6/54-codeswitch-real-talk-part-1-of-2
2: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/4c66b37f/55-codeswitch-real-talk-part-2-of-2

80: Black Voices Amplified - The Hard Truths Of Racism

"The hardest part in the aftermath has been determining how to raise my voice and protest. I find that my emotive side is ready to scream at the world while my internal deliberative voice is telling me to "mind my manners" or "remember you still need your job."

" That no matter what in 2020, we’re still treated as less than animals. That when I take off my military uniform I am George Floyd or Ahmaud Arbery."

" We are so easily killed and our lives have no value."

This week, we reached out to black family, friends, and colleagues so that we could tell their stories.  In part 1, we amplify the hard truths that have emerged since the widely-broadcast murder of George Floyd as well as Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery. 

Resource mentioned:

Scene on Radio: Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

79: The Aftermath - Racism In America

Today, we were short on groceries. No veggies left. No fruit. My vegan husband does not live well on pasta alone. So I put the kids down for a nap and went out back where Darryl was working on installing more pavers into our already fabulously-transformed backyard. 

"Im heading to Publix."

"Ok," he said. "I'll check in on the kids."

Just then, we heard a loud POP POP POP POP POP ricochet throughout our neighborhood. Probably the neighbors shooting off their firecrackers, I thought, but my heart still shot up into my throat. I shook it off and pulled out of the driveway, onto our main drive. As I was going 25mph down our neighborhood drag, a cop flew into the neighborhood going probably 75mph, lights and siren on. 

I panicked. I felt sick. I fought the urge to turn around and follow the cop. I didn't want my husband to think I was being melodramatic. I called him, he didn't answer. My mind raced. What if they see him, sweaty, in his workout gear on the side of the house from cutting pavers all day? What if they don't give him a chance to tell his story? What if I'm not there to vouch for him like the times I've had to in the past? What if the kids wake up and their dad is in the back of a cop car, or worse? 

I couldn't help it. I made my way to the store and started shopping, reassuring myself with the name of Jesus for an hour and a half (but silently freaking out and trying to keep it all together)...

Hear more about today's incident from both of our perspectives and more about the aftermath of racism in America in this episode. 

Episodes mentioned:

Being an Interracial Couple (episodes 1 through 4 on the top of our episodes page): https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes

Scene on Radio: Seeing White: https://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

78: A Conversation About Motivation

What motivates you? We talk about how we get motivated and stay motivated, including the times we aren't excited to finish a project or commitment. 

Episodes mentioned:

How Perfectionism is Affecting Your Life: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/4191f7b4/60-how-perfectionism-is-affecting-your-life

Get Over the Bullshift: https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/37c3ac7b/53-get-over-the-bull-shift

Let It Go:  https://www.successinblackandwhite.com/episodes/episode/be18ee5e/63-let-it-go-letting-the-past-go

77: Don’t Get Taken Advantage Of

Ooooooo, we've got a juicy one today! We call out the people on social media (and maybe even in your life!) who use emotional manipulation to take advantage of you during this time.  If you've gotten hit up to buy products,  take an online course, or even donate to a charity or else you're a "bad person" or "wasting your life", we're talkin' to you today.

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76: We Talk Self Care During COVID-19

We talk self care while staying home!! Tune in today.

75: Losing Your Patience?

We're still quarantining! It's difficult to be stuck in the same spaces, with the same people, day after day.  So how do you cope when you lose your patience with them?  In this episode, we talk about the strategies we use when we lose our patience with our kids and each other right now.  If you are in cramped quarters with people you're close to, you don't want to miss this episode.  

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74: Take Advantage Of This Opportunity

During this time of social distancing,  we are exhausted, drained, and a little worried. But we are also taking advantage of this opportunity that has been dropped in our lap to do the things we've been saying for years we need to do!  Find out what we're talking about in this episode. 

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73: Focus vs. Control

Heading into week 5(?) of social distancing, we discuss how we're living during these times, including one of Darryl's main strategies: Don't focus on what you can control.  What if you can't even focus?? Instead, work on focus and control separately.  Tune in to learn more about this incredibly perceptive strategy to manage your stress and anxiety and to continue to be productive in unlikely environments.  

If you prefer to watch rather than just listen, subscribe to our YouTube channel NOW! We started recording full episodes and you'll be able to watch us interact with each other and with you! Closed Captioning available. You can subscribe here: YouTube Channel - Success In Black and White.