Are you in the driver's seat, making the decisions for your life?  Or do you sit in the passenger seat and let circumstances dictate your life? In this episode, we talk about why it's important to have intention and be deliberate in how you achieve your goals.

 

We also discuss how we have to work around our VERY different personality tendencies when we set intentions or work towards achieving something in our relationship, our business, or as parents.  You'll hear how we had to go with the flow when we were expecting our first child, how we meticulously planned for our second child, how we deliberately worked the system for our destination wedding, and our usual tips and takeaways so you can put deliberation and intention into your lives on a daily basis!

 

 

Back when we found out we were expecting our first child, we realized that not only would it be life-changing, it would also be... work-changing.  Because we worked together, we could feel the gossip-mill turning before we ever even announced that we were pregnant (mainly because we hadn't told many people we were even dating... the pregnancy was bound to be a HUGE surprise). 

In this episode, we discuss the boundaries we've learned to set surrounding sharing personal information at work.  You'll not only get a very personal story from us, but you'll learn how to navigate sharing personal information with colleagues, clients, and customers. 

 

Validation is a necessary part of life.  We use validation every time we look up Yelp's "Top 10 Restaurants" while we're traveling.  We require validation to ensure that we are doing a good job at work.  However, validation can go too far when we start to rely on it in order to feel like we have worth.  The things that other people think of us shouldn't dictate how we feel about ourselves or our behaviors, but they often do.  

 

In this episode, we discuss the concept of validation, the harm it can have, and our tips for getting over needing validation from others in order to feel worthwhile. 

 

In this episode, we tackle a heavy topic:  the fears that hold us back from success.  We talk about:

1. The Fear of Inadequacy
2. The Fear of Failure
3. The Fear of Losing Control
4. The Fear of Judgment

We talk through the ways to overcome these common fears; trust me, you don't want to miss it! 

 

 

"How to Bounce Back": Episode 36- How to Rebound from a Mistake

 

 

 

 

One of the questions we get ALL THE TIME is "how do you continue to work together, be successful, and not hate each other??" 

Honestly, it takes work.  It's easier to "let things go" that will later bubble up into resentment than to have the hard conversation right away.  It's easier to sit around and watch TV than to spend time together day-in-and-day-out working on your relationship or towards a shared goal.  It's easier to just do parenting your way and expect your partner to jump on-board than to have some of those harder conversations up-front.

But- we've committed to not only having a good life together, but to having an extraordinary life together.  In this episode, we give your our 4 tips to ensure that you are successful as a couple. 

 

Resource Mentioned: 

Download your FREE Goal-Crusher's Guide! This in-depth, 7-page workbook will help you determine your goals and create action steps to achieve them: successinblackandwhite.com/goalcrushers

 

Ever been passed up for a promotion or a raise at work? Ever been passed up for a project? Ever felt like you weren't getting what you needed from your partner in your relationship? Ever just feel like you AREN'T BEING HEARD? In this episode, we are discussing strategies you can use when advocating for yourself in your various relationships- romantic relationships, familial relationships, and work relationships.  

 

Resources mentioned:

 

Jocko Willink podcast: http://jockopodcast.com/

 

Level Up Your Confidence Game: Episode 41 - Level Up Your Confidence Game

 

"Can he just help me with the dishes for once?"

 

"Can she stop slamming cupboards in there...what is wrong with her??! "

 

In this episode, you're getting the insiders view into our relationship roles; the struggles we've had defining them; and how we finally were able to bring peace to our relationship by supporting each other in the most mundane things there are in life:  household chores.  

 

Episodes mentioned: "Communication Episodes"

 

Success in Black and White episode 34: How to Give Productive Feedback

 

Success in Black and White episode 35: How to Take Feedback Like a Champ

 

Episodes mentioned: 

Oprah's Super Soul Conversations: Oprah on the False Power of Ego

 

 

Ed Mylett Show: A Mental Health Homerun with Aubrey Huff

 

Success in Black and White: Surviving Transitions: Surviving Transitions

 

You know that feeling when someone touches your partner RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU??

 

Well, I do (April speaking here). 

 

So on our special anniversary edition of the podcast (happy July 23rd anniversary to us!), Darryl and I talk about a couple of different scenarios: one happened to our friends and one happened when a bold, brazen lady put her hands on Darryl.  

 

Trust me, you really don't want to miss this episode.